Did that headline resonate with you?
Did your stomach twist a little?
There is so much pressure on you to achieve. Do this, do that, do a third thing! DO DO DO.
You become so focused on doing, that you forget your why.
Why you started going after that thing.
Why you wanted freedom and not more responsibilities.
Why you wanted more time to spend with your family.
Why you wanted more time to travel.
We're bombarded daily from all angles by what we're "supposed" to be doing that we lose sight of what we actually want.
You can’t run a business you love around a lifestyle you hate.
Read that again. But slower and read it out loud (you will increase your chances of remembering it)
Y o u c a n ’t r u n a b u s in e s s y o u l o v e a r o u n d
a l i f e s t y l e y o u h a t e.
When I first started my online business I felt like I had to fit into some type of bubble. I felt like I had to be doing all the things. This person is doing this and that so I need to be doing the same. Bad decision after bad decision I was losing sight of WHY I had started in the first place.
You have to remember WHAT YOU WANT and not get sucked into what you see other people chasing!
You don’t have to drop a mastermind/ program / e-book / podcast
You don’t have to speak at an event.
You don't have to be an extrovert.
You don’t need to win any awards.
You don’t have to work more hours.
You don’t have to meet THAT person for a coffee, so they can waste your time.
You don't have to visit tropical countries.
You don’t have to hit X amount of followers.
You don’t have to take an ice bath, walk across hot coal, or listen to Gary Vee podcasts.
You don’t have to grow your business.
If you don't like it, don't do it. Simple.
In fact, the only thing you HAVE to do is to take a step towards what you want and keep moving towards that.
Because you see other people doing it, that doesn’t mean it’s the right path for you. Accept responsibility for your own path.
I fell HARD into this DO DO DO more trap.
Making money online became an addiction. Shopify money sounds going off on my phone, the eBook sale notifications popping up on GMAIL. Watching my investments in Crypto skyrocket. All these triggers feeding into my unhealthy addiction to wanting to make more money. But at what cost?
As soon as my income took off, it was my FREEDOM that I'd begin to surrender. I was being influenced by what I saw others portray success as - big houses, holidays, fancy cars. I wasn't only following these people extrinsically but also intrinsically. Shapeshifting my dreams to match theirs.
It wasn't until I began questioning my own actions that things shifted for me.
Why do I need to make more money?
Why do I need more followers?
Why do I follow social media accounts that make me anxious or depressed?
Why does this social media post make me feel anxious?
Why did I choose to take out my phone when playing with my kid?
Asking ‘why’ helps you understand how you want to grow and where you want to go.
Keep asking yourself why until you get to the root of your decisions.
It's already changed how and where I spend my time.
The only thing worse than having no dream is having your dreams hijacked by someone else.
Them - lounging on a sandy beach, sipping on a pina colada
You - spending more time with your kids
Them - chasing more money
You - making enough money to do more of what you love
Them - chasing internet fame
You - having an engaged small community who share similar aspirations and passions
The good news is you can avoid this.
You can avoid falling into the trap of living someone else's dream with the help of these three questions:
Accept responsibility for your own path. Stop letting other people's ideals of success shape your own. Take control of your own narrative and make sure you're living the life you want. Keep asking yourself what success means to you, and make adjustments along the way.
- Are you living the dream you want, or following someone else's?
- What is your dream?
- What steps can you take today to make your dream a reality?
And always remember take charge of your life and chase your dreams, because no one else will do it for you.
Now that you are aware, you can take control back.
Until next week,